What do we really mean when we say ” I’m there for you”?! Do we mean I’m there till the road gets tough, or do we mean till you decide to turn the wrong direction?
Then “there” becomes just a particular spot in life where WE feel you should be. And if you’re not, you’re on your own kid!
Much is talked about “unconditional love” (in a greater sense of it), very little is actually seen in real life. When you love somebody, whether romantically or not, you have that person’s best interest at heart. You show care, concern and appreciation that you have that person in your life. You listen, comfort and console when they need to vent or are seeking emotional connection. You set your needs aside and concentrate on what’s important if your loved one is ill or in a crisis. You offer what’s needed and when it’s needed.
Pretty “straightforward” and surely conventional.
But what about all the times when you’ve provided the care, listened to all the concerns, voiced your advice and offered some assistance, yet they are still not there where you want them to be, or even turning the wrong way (despite your desperate pleas and help in trying to get them back on a road)?!
What do you do then, do you turn and walk away (not looking back at the wreckage just about to happen)? Or do you stay and continue to offer the same care, concern and assistance as you did when things were going the way you wanted them? Well, it’s up to you of course, whatever it is that you can actually master. But don’t talk about love then if you decide to turn away, it doesn’t work that way, you don’t get to choose if and when, you just do!
So if you truly love somebody unconditionally, you simply get on a sidewalk and cheer. You support the person no matter what, even if you don’t agree with their actions. You support whatever big or small aspirations they set out for themselves, whether it’s a marathon or a sprint distance, if it’s hot or cold on that sidewalk, you put your best cheerleader uniform on, get the pom poms out and just cheer!
Yes, it is very possible (or even probable) that they are making a mistake, and yes, some mistakes are way more costly than other. Your job is to continue providing encouragement along the road so that they don’t feel abandoned and let your love carry them (possibly towards a speeding freight train).
If anything, you should be nearby as most likely you’d be the one helping to clear out the wreckage!
What’s Cooking This Week
In honor of “love” post, I thought it’d be nice to continue the theme and make some dessert to show my appreciation to the ones I love. As always gluten free yet completely delicious, and the heart shape adds nicely to the whole picture.
Vanilla and Strawberry Coconut “Heart” Cake
Cake (makes 4 mini heart cakes):
6 eggs, room temperature
1/4 cup of almond or coconut milk
1/4 cup of coconut oil, melted
1/2 cup of coconut flour
6 Tbspoons of honey or agave nectar
1 tspoon of vanilla
1/2 tspoon of baking powder
1/2 tspoon of orange zest
1/2 tspoon of salt
In a bowl whisk together milk, eggs, vanilla and orange zest, then add honey/agave and melted but slightly cooled off coconut oil.
In a separate bowl combine together flour, salt and baking powder. gradually mix in the dry ingredients into the wet ones.
Pre-heat the oven to 350 degrees. Oil four mini heart cake pans and distribute the batter evenly between the pans. Bake for about 25-30 minutes.
Strawberry and vanilla frosting:
5-8 strawberries, thinly sliced
1 1/2 cup of organic Spectrum shortening
1/4 cup of seedless strawberry jam
1 tspoon of vanilla
1 + 2 cups of powdered sugar
(optional) red food coloring, pink sugar crystals, sugar pearls
Whip shortening until light and fluffy, then divide it in half. Combine one half with strawberry jam and then gradually whip in 1 cup of powdered sugar, add a couple of drops of red food coloring to make it a deeper pink color. Combine the other half with vanilla and whip in 2 cups of powdered sugar for vanilla frosting.
Once the cakes are cool, slice the top parts off to make two even layers. Spread some strawberry frosting on the bottom half and place sliced strawberries on top.
Cover with the top layer and frost the entire cake with strawberry frosting. Then use vanilla frosting to decorate each cake as desired. This barely sweet cake pairs perfectly with a combo of two “sugar rush” frostings.
A variation on strawberry cake can be this vanilla and blueberry one.
Enjoy! And share with the ones you love!